Last updated on March 3rd, 2021 at 08:34 pm
Some times, when you’ve been with your partner for a while, it can seem like most of your conversations are about you day to day life. It’s normal, and healthy, but that doesn’t mean you can’t shake things up once in a while. I can, with 100% certainty, promise there are some questions you have never asked your spouse, and my hope in compiling these 200 conversation starters for couples, is that you can identify those within your relationship.
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You’ll notice many of these questions are very open ended. This is intentional, so the follow up questions and conversations you have, can flow in a way that feels authentic to you and your partner. This isn’t meant to be a scripted activity, but rather a way to engage in dialogue that you may not have otherwise. The goal is to open up and learn more about each other, even if at times, it could be uncomfortable.
Stepping out of your routine will help you grow as a couple. It will open up lines of communication and foster a deeper understanding of how your partner thinks and feels. However, don’t worry. Not all of these questions are deep, intellectual thought provokers. There’s an equal amount of fun, lighthearted questions, that encourage you to laugh, dream, and be silly.
I’ve included 3 different options as to how to use this list, so it’s inclusive as possible. Choose whichever format best suits your life!
Option #1
If you’d like to print them all and add them to a jar, like we did, just grab the UNNUMBERED PDF HERE. Cut them into strips and stick them in a cute jar. Grab a few out when you want to connect and you’re good to go! We chose this option because were so plugged in all the time for work, it’s nice to have a break from tech. Also, any excuse to use my Silhouette Machine, amiright?
Option #2
Download the NUMBERED PDF HERE to keep on your phone. Whenever you want to engage just head over to random.org and input a range of 1-200. It’ll spit out a number and you can reference that question on the list!
Option #3
Shoutout to my man for making this one a possibility! Just click the button below to automatically generate a number between 1-200. Every time you click, a new number will pop up. You’ll find the numbered list just below. I recommend saving this post on Pinterest so you can reference it when ever you want to use it!
200 Conversation Starters for Couples
- What is your favourite part of my body?
- How would you describe our relationship in three words?
- What is a question about life you wish you could have answered?
- If you had the entire world’s attention for one minute, what would you say?
- If you could live one day over and over again for the rest of your life, what day would it be?
- Where do you want to be buried when you die? Or do you want your ashes spread somewhere?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you pick?
- What feature are you most self conscious of?
- What is your favourite part of me as a person?
- What is one thing you wish I did differently as a parent?
- What’s something you want to try during sex, but have been too shy to tell me?
- If you could trade places with one person for a day, who would it be?
- Describe yourself in three words.
- Describe me in three words
- What did you want to be when you grew up?
- What’s your biggest fear?
- What is one household chore you absolutely hate doing?
- If all crimes were legal for a day, what would you do?
- What is the best gift you have ever received?
- What is a tradition from your past that you want to carry forward?
- What are absolute deal breakers in a relationship for you?
- What is the best compliment you have ever received from me
- What is the weirdest food you have ever eaten? What did you think?
- If you were an animal, what animal would you be?
- If you could have any superpower what would it be?
- Name one thing you would like me to do differently
- Did you have a favorite teacher in school?
- Have you ever saved someone’s life?
- How would you feel if I changed my religious beliefs?
- Do you think our relationship is affair proof?
- How often would you like to have sex each week, ideally?
- Can you recount a time when you lost your patience with me?
- What are some problems you think future generations will face?
- Do you think emotional cheating is a valid concern in a relationship?
- What song makes you think of me?
- If I was a food what food would I be?
- What is your idea of a perfect date?
- What does a perfect day look like to you?
- If you could only eat one meal I’ve cooked for the rest of your life what would it be?
- If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- What’s your stance on a person being able to marry an inanimate object?
- What is something you have learned about me since getting married/moving in together?
- What is your favourite memory of us?
- If you could change one thing about me, what would it be?
- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
- Do you have a role model?
- Who would you pick to play you, in a movie?
- Do you feel respected by me?
- When was the last time you felt loved?
- What can I do more often to make you feel loved?
- If money were no object where would we go on vacation?
- If you could have any job in the world, salary and practicality aside, what would it be?
- Do you have a sexual fantasy you have been too afraid to share with me? If so, what is it?
- What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future?
- If you could have any pet in the world, what would it be?
- What is the first thing you noticed about me when we met?
- Where do you see us in 10 years? 20 years?
- What is your dream car?
- If a genie granted you 3 wishes, what would they be?
- Is there something you miss that we used to do?
- Describe our relationship in one word.
- Tell me something you learned this week.
- What advice would you give your 13yr old self?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- Do you have a secret you have kept from me? Would you like to tell me now?
- How do you feel about matching couples outfits?
- What age would you like to live to
- What is your favourite memory of a person who isn’t in your life anymore?
- What do you want the atmosphere in our home to be like?
- Which couple do you look up to the most and why?
- If you were on life support, would you want to be kept alive?
- How do you feel about lending money to family members?
- How do you feel about being a full time caregiver to a sibling or parent if they needed it?
- What are 3 shows of affection you enjoy from me and wish I would do more often?
- What is one thing you wish you knew how to do?
- What is one thing you would never change about me?
- Do you have any unreasonable fears or phobias?
- Do you ever feel controlled by me?
- What are 3 items you would want if you were trapped on a deserted island?
- If the house was on fire and you could only grab 3 things, excluding family members and pets, what would they be?
- What are 3 things you would consider yourself an expert on?
- Which couple in a movie reminds you of us?
- Would you consider taking a couples class with me? If so, what’s the topic?
- If you owned a boat, what would its name be?
- What kind of car would I be?
- What is your favorite dinosaur and why?
- What made you fall in love with me?
- If you were singing karaoke, what song would you choose?
- If you could dis-invent one thing, what would it be?
- If you could own any type of business, what would it be?
- How would you feel if I want to quit my job and take care of the house/kids?
- How would you react if my employer wanted to relocate me?
- Name 3 things that are in fact, better than sliced bread.
- Do you prefer when I look polished, or casual?
- If you could dress me (hair, outfit, everything) what would I be wearing?
- If you had to choose a theme song for yourself, what would it be?
- If you had to choose a theme song for our relationship, what would it be?
- Is there a show or genre of television that you wish I didn’t watch?
- What’s the number 1 thing on your bucket list?
- What is one thing you would change about our home if money were no object?
- If you could wedgie any person in the world, dead or alive, who would it be?
- How would you feel if I wanted to enlist in the army?
- Would you rather lose an arm or a leg?
- Would you rather lose your hearing or your sight?
- If you could learn any language, what would it be?
- What was your favourite halloween costume growing up?
- What age do you think is appropriate for kids to move out?
- If you could change your name, would you? To what?
- What is one thing you wish I did for you, but I don’t?
- If you had $1000 to spend only on yourself, what would you buy?
- Which of the 7 dwarfs do you identify with? Which do you think I identify with?
- Would you rather have overly large hands or overly small feet?
- Do you think you would survive a zombie apocalypse? If yes, how would you ensure survival?
- Is there any activity or hobby you prefer to do alone?
- We can invite 3 famous people to dinner, who are they?
- What was the strangest punishment your parents ever gave you?
- How would you feel if aliens came to Earth?
- If you could visit any planet in the solar system, which would you choose?
- What do you want to be remembered for when you die?
- What’s the best gift you have ever received?
- What’s the worst gift you have ever received?
- Would you rather a tangible gift or an experience?
- Would you rather be able to understand dogs or cats talk?
- Name one way I can be a better partner to you
- If you could create any one law, what would it be?
- What’s your biggest strength in our relationship?
- What’s your biggest weakness in our relationship?
- The one thing I couldn’t have done without you was…
- What circumstances are you comfortable with going into debt for?
- Have you ever felt rejected by me?
- Give me your best pick-up line.
- Give me your cheesiest pick-up line.
- Do you have a strange talent I don’t know about?
- Would you rather wrestle in jello, mud, or spaghetti?
- Are there any conspiracy theories that you think are valid?
- When we’re apart, what do you miss most about me?
- Do you think spouses should be best friends?
- If you could recreate any childhood memory of yours with our kids, which would it be?
- What would you do if you knew that you could not fail?
- When are we, as a team, really good together?
- Is there anything you’ve wanted to do for a while but need help with?
- Is there anything you wish I would take more initiative with?
- If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?
- If you could rob a bank and get away with it, would you?
- Tell me about a funny video you’ve watched recently
- Tell me about an unpopular opinion you have.
- If you could run the country, would you?
- If you could live in any decade, which would you choose?
- If you could be a famous athlete, what sport would you choose to excel at?
- Do you feel appreciated by me? What can I do to enforce that?
- Do you prefer to type digitally or write with pen and paper?
- How many squirrels do you think you could fight at once before it became overwhelming?
- Are there any foods you wouldn’t have eaten if you were the first to discover it?
- If your worst habit was your next tattoo, what are you getting?
- In a battle to the death, would Godzilla or King Kong win?
- If you could revive any cancelled tv series, which would you choose?
- If you could invent any emoji, which would you choose?
- What is a topic in highschool you think should be taught, but isn’t?
- Have you ever had a recurring dream? Tell me about it.
- Name one trend you wish hadn’t taken off
- If you could outlaw one vegetable, what would it be?
- What is the most beneficial emotion? Most destructive?
- Have you ever witnessed an actual miracle?
- If you were going to bury a time capsule depicting the last year, what would you put in it?
- What would be the title of your biography?
- Name one place you would like to have sex, but haven’t.
- What would you do if you were the opposite sex for one day?
- Do the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few?
- What movie was so sad you will never watch it again?
- What’s a holiday that doesn’t exist, but you think should?
- After you survive the apocalypse, what will your job be?
- What type of cult do you see yourself most likely to get tangled up in? Or if you were to start a cult, what would it be about?
- Can you think of a hobby you would like us to take up together?
- Do you think it’s okay for couples to play pranks on each other? Why or why not?
- Is there a topic you refuse to bring up with me, because of my reaction?
- Is there any meal I make that you secretly don’t like?
- Do I have any annoying habits you wish I would be mindful of?
- If you had to be an inanimate object for one week, what would it be?
- If you had the opportunity to know the date and cause of your death, would you want to know?
- If you could play any instrument in the world, what would it be?
- What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
- If you could be any Disney character, who would you choose?
- How would you describe me to a stranger?
- How can I help you this upcoming week?
- Given the opportunity, would you travel to space?
- Is there something you want to buy right now?
- Is there a tradition you would like to start?
- If you could eradicate one disease, what would it be?
- How am I different than when we first met?
- If given the chance to live forever, would you?
- Would you rather spend 5 years in jail or 10 years in a coma?
- Would you rather have the ability to time travel into the past or to see the future?
- Are you ever jealous of something about me?
- What would you bring for an adult show and tell?
- What is something you think every person should experience at least once?
- Name one fashion or hair style you would love to try but don’t think you could pull off?
- What’s the last place in the word you would want to visit?
- What’s the most embarrassing thing a pet knows about you?
- What would our band be called?
- Invent your own word. What does it mean?
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